When responsibility comes knocking......
It's a common scenario,(i guess especially in India) where parents work hard for their kids, to provide them with the best of everything. We see to it that our kids get an environment of total comfort, so that they can concentrate on their studies and work towards achieving a bright future.
In today's all hi-tech world, there are so many channels offering us advice on the best ways of Parenting. From diet charts to academic know-hows, all r there in the wide web.
So in this wide world web of parenting do's and dont's i thought i will add one of my thoughts too...... so here goes.....
One thing that we almost always miss to teach our kids is how to handle responsibilities.We are too busy in providing and creating a safe platform for their lives, that we forget to show them how to do some thing on their own. It can be anything, from simple things like tying a shoelace, to a bit more complex things like shopping wisely on their own.
It might sound silly at first, and we may end up thinking that kids will learn all that as they grow up... Agreed! Afterall most of the things that we know and do in our daily lives today have been self-taught. We all learn from the situations we are put into... but depriving our kids the chance to be responsible is something which will show its effects later in their lives. One fine day when he/she is asked to take up responsibilities, it may not be easy for them.
So let's teach our kids to be responsible for their actions. Give them small chores, let them be held responsible for them.When they go wrong, don't shut them out, noone can be perfect in the first trial. Teach them how its done and correct their mistakes. This will not only make them feel responsible, but they will also be happy that they are helping you out!
... one day later in their lives they are gonna be thankful to you for these small lessons! :)
Your valuable comments are welcome...:)
In today's all hi-tech world, there are so many channels offering us advice on the best ways of Parenting. From diet charts to academic know-hows, all r there in the wide web.
So in this wide world web of parenting do's and dont's i thought i will add one of my thoughts too...... so here goes.....
One thing that we almost always miss to teach our kids is how to handle responsibilities.We are too busy in providing and creating a safe platform for their lives, that we forget to show them how to do some thing on their own. It can be anything, from simple things like tying a shoelace, to a bit more complex things like shopping wisely on their own.
It might sound silly at first, and we may end up thinking that kids will learn all that as they grow up... Agreed! Afterall most of the things that we know and do in our daily lives today have been self-taught. We all learn from the situations we are put into... but depriving our kids the chance to be responsible is something which will show its effects later in their lives. One fine day when he/she is asked to take up responsibilities, it may not be easy for them.
So let's teach our kids to be responsible for their actions. Give them small chores, let them be held responsible for them.When they go wrong, don't shut them out, noone can be perfect in the first trial. Teach them how its done and correct their mistakes. This will not only make them feel responsible, but they will also be happy that they are helping you out!
... one day later in their lives they are gonna be thankful to you for these small lessons! :)
Your valuable comments are welcome...:)
True words!! good one Meg
ReplyDeleteI still remember when i was a school kid, my mom use to give me one rupee everyday for buying samosa during interval. And it becomes 2 - 5 rupees during special days. *Condition apply while receiving that money- "You eat and don't give to someone else, you are so thin than your friends"
Morally this is wrong!! These kind of words will not help him grow in a good way. When he grows up, he will not help others in anyway unless he gets a benefit out of them.
I would think in a different way to grow a child. I will give 1 rupee and say 'use it when you need'. Help someone who is more needy than you of this one rupee". he will be a king once ;)
Megs, I am visiting you from Healing Morning and I love your blog! This topic is one I've discussed with so many friends over the years, in addition to my own wonderful Mom. Parenting is that most noble, challenging job in the world, because you're raising those who will inherit this world. Giving them a solid foundation whilst also balancing that foundation with strong life lessons to give kids critical thinking skills - that's a big challenge on a daily basis! I don't think that any parent believes they've done a perfect job in raising their children, but if love is present, most of the rest falls into place over time.
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