Like SaNd in HanD

18 Dec 2010

Relationships........ are like sand held in your hand.

Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled.

Relationships are similar.

Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.

I never knew.... before i became a mum!!!

The BEST forwarded message i ever read .....

Before i was mum i never learnt the words to a lullaby.

I never thought about immunisations.

I had never been sick on,pooped on,drooled on,chewed on, or peed on.

I had complete control of my mind, my thoughts & my life.

I slept all night. I never looked teary eyed & cried.

I never got gloriously happy over a simple little grin.

I never sat up for hours watching somone sleep.

I had never felt my heart break into a million pieces when i couldn't stop the pain.

I never knew something so small could affect my life so much,

Before i was a mum i didn't know the feeling of having a heart out of my body.

.......... Author: A mum in some part of our world, who had the privilege to put it in words :)

One DaY aT a TiMe

Take one day at a time, plan ahead but don't let today's mindset take decisions about tomorrows events... we may end up regretting it!!!! 

A world full of randomness, has maybe made many of us very random. We are not the same everyday, we are not at the same peak points every moment. A week of good mood, is a long lost aspect...........

Day to day happenings affect us, and our thoughts a great deal more than those old computer-less days. Knowingly or unknowingly our thoughts are complex enough, to sometimes unnecessarily complicate simple events!

Wish the world was simpler... wish we were simpler.

My adVentuRes On roAd ~ 1

A scene from the fields near Mysore, Karnataka.....

...........BenGaLurU~bYtEs..........

…. Lit with golden lights, … It lay there, as if welcoming us to the unknown world beyond our reach. As i tread on that golden path, something in me urged my tired eyes to search for the invisible destination the road lead to, my heartbeat raced as if fearing a dark ending to this enlightened trip.

A moment of uncertainty left me wondering how similar life’s paths are, to this trip. Almost always we travel, not knowing where our destination is. Sometimes the journey would be torturous and the destination sweet, and sometimes the other way round , and all well, for the lucky few! However it turns out to be, if a suffering was involved, we get surprised and shocked at first, then we shed some tears and then slowly and steadily our minds get adjusted to the “facts”, and the next time something similarly bad happens to a friend…. we would end up sharing tales of advice!

As if to wake me up from my wonderland of thoughts, my golden carriage came to a halt… and then i heard trumpets and horns, Atlast i’ve reached the sweet destination of my life, where i would be pampered for who i am and not for who others expect me to be…. Atlast my soul will be at peace… then i heard someone talking…an angel??? a guardian of the gates of heaven??? ….. na …….!!!! ….. just another auto driver struggling to live his day through the traffic!…. and then like a bullet coming through, it all came back to me in a sudden thrust…. i am still here, in the bus to home… my golden road was just the Hosur flyover..and my destination.. [maybe 'dark ending of the enlightened trip' is the better suited word...] ..is just the silkboard junction…. hovering with traffic and horns and shouts … like every other day!!

Written on ...[26/02/2005 23:37:29]

ALCHEMIST.....................................
a book which is on t he bestsellers list for a long time....i got this book just by chance of luck... It truly leaves u to think for a while as u read each line.... and in the end it tells U to LISTEN to ur Heart..... follow ur dream .....realise ur purpose...before its too late..

We travel with sandiago....an ordinary shepherd boy with a difference....!!!!! Dreams come and go...sometimes it affects us and sometimes no....Dreams are to be followed...easily said than done nah??? but Paulo Coelho...the author has a different fact to tell us...Sandiago and his trail teaches us that Evrything under heaven has a purpose...and our aim in life should be to realise it...Since God cant keep conferences and explain it to us with PowerPoint presentations...we get to see something more natural and within Gods range......dreams.....
Seems a bit philosophical huh???"the boy" takes us to the distant deserts and then in search of the Alchemist--who is a person who has discovered the Elixir of Life and the trick to turn every other metal into gold..
Alchemist helps the boy discover the tru meaning of life .....of achieving ur dreams....and he helps us climb into the cloud....it has given me the answers of many of my questions..a.nd hope it would do the same to you...enjoy reading

Written on ... [05/11/2004 03:13:22]

dear.....whoever
i dont know why i may be feeling like this...She is again slipping into tht same old trance.... I sometimes feel very childish of not accepting things as they are.. Many a time when i see her chumma loitering here and there without doing her work....i feel that sudden thud in my heart which rises all upto my throat and urges me to tell her to go do her work...but then i stop myself ' what right do i have to tell her that? she is a big girl and she knows whats good for her... there's absolutely no need for me to remind her'
but still i am that old character itself...she has been more than a friend for me...i have always felt possesive about her and so she was kind of over protected by me....and the consequences of that...i better not go into that again!!!!!!!! So i stop myself and when accidentally those concerned words escape my mouth my heart pounds again waiting for her reaction...
will it be a 'I knew u will say that' kind of look.......or will it be a look of confusion???.. or will it be her favourite weapon?....Silence???
...her silence...it hurts me more than any other thing in this world...... that expression on her face which completely ignores me...as if i dont even exist!!!!!!............it just pricks deep into my soul and drains me of all happinesss........