...to the world of Rapists!!!!!

It was a cold morning and i slipped out of bed careful not to wake up my two year old sleeping peacefully beside me...

I hurried to the kitchen to start with my chores for the morning. one of it being retrieving the milk packet from my front door, i opened the door and picked up the packet and the newspaper.
I conducted the usual ritual of reading the headlines and was about to flop the paper on the table, but before i could walk off something caught my eye. Dumbstruck, shocked, numb, shivers.... i don't know exactly how to explain that moment of pain.

"Capital shamed: Girl gang-raped on bus in South Delhi", it read. Details of it all of you would have read. It was too much to believe. 

As i managed to handover the paper to my husband and walk away, my mind was flooded with the many such articles I've read in the past. brutal cases like these have been in the papers on and off. Fathers, Uncles, Caretakers, turning into monsters at schools ,home etc, The very people and places we considered secure is now where we should be extra cautious !!! 

Accidents happen.. it's part of life... but what about things like these? What reason or justification do they have for committing such a brutal act, to make a person devoid of the capability to live a life, dignity aside, atleast with the minimum confidence that someone will not plunge over them in the next second. To say that its animal behavior would be to insult the animal kingdom itself, atleast they Kill and dont make their victims's life  a rotting hell! 

When i grew up we were told to be careful about strangers. Don't talk to strangers my mum used to utter, outgoing was not the kind of thing one was supposed to do when in a vulnerable situation and it was understood well. But now? what should i tell my son\daughter? 

Should i isolate them into a cube and let them live their lives in a dungeon where no one can reach them?

Whom should i warn them about? strangers? or their own family members? 

Schools are now creating awareness about good touch and bad touch, but what do we teach them about the jungle out there? How can one live with the fear that any moment, any one can turn into a monster and pounce upon you!!! 

Right and Wrong no longer comes in Black and White! We need to revisit our morality. We need to find our moral self to be able to stop ourselves from viewing others as probable Victims. Wake up people.... wake up the human in you.... 

HeaRt Vs MiNd

Arranged Vs Love? .... its Complicated!

6 Aug 2012 

SALE SALE SALE ... everywhere a SALE... that's how it is now when u tread outside nowadays. Every other store has an ON SALE board hung bright and bold in front of their entrances,and knowingly or unknowingly we get pulled in.
So last weekend i was on this shopping spree, desperate to checkout the sale at my favorite store, i made time from my usual schedules to head out and indulge. Since the day i had planned for this, my mind had been on this all alert mode, where i pick up colors and patterns from everything i see, from tv serials to magazine pages, to distant memories of beautiful dresses worn in my favorite movies. Every now and then, in between the routines my mind would return with a new color and pattern to put in my bookmarks list, so that i can refer to them when at the store.

All set for the endeavor i headed out to the store. The innumerable colors that the store held out to me were more than manageable. Never had i felt so overwhelmed with the need to pick my favorites! So there i was surrounded by all sort of colors and patterns one could imagine, and yet even after an hour i couldn't set eyes on even one garment that would satisfy my style definitions!
True to the moment, i was greatly disappointed at this unexpected turn of things. Even with all that it could offer me.. it was just not enough!

Life sometimes is like this... the moment would ask for it, the nature would strive to offer it , but all of it wouldn't be enough to make it happen! It wouldn't matter whether u actually prepared/planned for the moment or it happened spontaneously, the only thing that matters is for you to feel right. 

Strength of a relationship is based upon the quality and not upon the length of time u knew each other. Sometimes even spending a lifetime with someone wouldn't be enough to understand them, and some other times the sincerity and loyalty of the other person would strike you in just few seconds spent together !

Like they say 'everything has got its place and time'... even love and marriage has its predestined place and time... sometimes it just feels right and u just need to trust your instincts. Love ya arranged .. its the commitment towards it that matters... nothing more..nothing less!

Forgive and ForgeT? or Revenge and Regret?

There are basically two kinds I've come across..

The ones who forgive and forget and the other who don't!

While the former glazes through life leaving breakups and regrets behind , with the hope of a better tomorrow, the latter holds on to the past and evaluates everything the future holds in terms if the past memories. Even the smallest mistake you do with a person who never forgets will be written in big bold letters in the book of your relationship and will be referred back and forth every valid and invalid times.

Hence evidently forgive and forget is the way to be if you want to enjoy life without the dark shadows of the past.

But in todays wild world, there are some others who take advantage of this Forgive and forget trait. Just because we move on with life more easily, people tend to think that they can get away with anything ,cos we'll forgive them and get along as if nothing happened. So then it becomes important that forgive and forget be always accompanied by assertiveness, so that you don't allow anyone to make you feel inferior or victimized.

So then how should it be ? ...  i guess even the universal rules need to rewritten to face today's unforgiving world.

Forgive and become a door mat? or take revenge and be called a fighter?? .... what to be and what not to stays a mystery!!!!! 

Soul space !!! ...........

Dilon mein tum apni betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho, Toh zinda ho tum

{If you carry your restlessness in your heart, then you are alive}

Nazar mein khwabon ki bijliyan leke chal rahe ho, Toh zinda ho tum

{If you carry the flames of your dreams in your eyes, then you are alive}

Hawa ke jhokon ke jaise aazad rehna sikho

{Learn to live free like the gusts of wind}

Tum ek dariya ke jaise lehron mein behna sikho

{Learn to flow like the waves in a stream}

Har ek lamhe se tum milo kholke apni bhaahein

{Embrace every moment in life with open arms}

Har ek pal ek naya samha dekhen yeh nigahaein

{Each moment your eyes see is a new season}

Jo apni aankhon mein hairaniyan leke chal rahe ho, toh zinda ho tum

{If you carry wonder in your eyes, then you are alive}

Dilon mein tum apni betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho, toh zinda ho tum

{If you carry your restlessness in your heart, then you are alive}

These are lines from a Bollywood (Hindi) hit movie…..

Worries, anxieties and pain are something we all wanna get rid of from our lives. But have you ever felt that even the most challenging moments in ur lives have some purpose in the road to fulfillment ?! 

This song, rather poem, depicts the true meaning of life.. of being alive. It's not only about roses, kisses, smiles and happiness, but it’s also about the anxieties, challenges, dreams and struggles to attain them. Without such worries or heartaches one would never be able to appreciate the true value of the happiness we receive!

To be fulfilled with life, one has to accept and live through not just the easy days but also the hard sad days. Being tension free doesn't always mean being happy, as many of us would imagine!  Sometimes being devoid of something, even when that is not one of the pleasantries of life, makes us crave for fulfillment. ..... but sadly, we don't accept this unless we've painfully lived through it! 

Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

 Excerpt:  "Everyone knows they're going to die,but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently."

All of us have thousands of complaints right? about the traffic, the food, the salary,the work, the politics,... on goes the never ending lists.

So amidst all these regrets and worries, there came by a book which left me thinking how silly i am !!

A professor counting his last days of life, shows us the true meaning of being alive! to not surrender to the disease is one part of whole book, but the most important part is the lessons he teaches us.

Excerpt: "Take any emotion-love for a woman,or grief for a loved one, If you hold back on the emotions-if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them-you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid.You're afraid of the pain,you're afraid of the grief.You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

But by throwing yourself into these emotions,by allowing yourself to dive in,all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely, you know what pain is . you know what love is, you know what grief is.And only then can you say, all right i have experienced that emotion, i recognize that emotion,Now i need to detach from that emotion for a moment. "

Many a times in life I've been through stages when the same had happened to me, an emotion is with me only till i go to the full extent with it! and it being not the norm, i have been questioned by many of my queers... all those questions remain answered with professor morrie's statement above.

Excerpt: "No matter where u live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don't see what we could be, we should be looking at our potential stretching ourselves into everything we can become."

Through simple statements , Mitch Albom, brings out the real essence of life.. of living and letting others live!!!

Thanks Mitch for this wonderful composition.

Got a Second look?

If people are giving you a second look,
there can be two possibilities,

either you are looking too beautiful to take eyes off, 
or something is too awkward to stop laughing about!

What You choose to Believe, decides the course of your next step.... 

Fights matter!!!

Calm,Composed,Adjustable.... on would go the list of good traits, but unless you are a fighter, no one's gonna give a damn about you!!!

Compare ?

One should not compare One with the Other…. ….b’cos One is One and not Another!.....

The Facebook Phase!!!

Just the other day I caught myself red handed .... thinking in terms of facebook status messages!

Although it was funny at start, later I was wondering what's wrong with me. Am I obsessed with the social networking funda ...or is it just a minor symptom to ring the bell and stop me from getting there.?!
Whatever it is, I'm sure that lately my fb addiction has increased a tiny winy bit....and now i recognize ...its changing the way i think !!!

So what's it that has made face book so famous and what's that one string its originators struck right in the entire human population's minds.

** This social sharing concept has affected us so much these days that the first thought on every photo we click, is whether it'll look good on  face book and how many of our social circles would like/comment on it. Every dress, styles, jobs, and even the Person is evaluated based on the number of likes\comments we receive for it!

** The don't tell mama trick no longer works...cos most probably, even before you reach home from the so called study tour,  your mom would have noticed her kid tagged in one of the cool party pics, by one of the buddies!

So that's how our life has become.. an open book. As long as you don't indulge too much in the privacy settings of your account, you and your life is accessible to anyone anywhere anytime!!!

** On one hand this may prove good, the feeling that anything and everything we do is gonna be out there for everyone to see, makes us more cautious and responsible about ourselves!

** Often there are problems we are involved in, for which we struggle to find solutions! Sometimes we turn the world upside down in search of a solution when it would be actually hiding behind our door!!!
Its a very common scenario and it happens mostly because we are in too much of a hurry or anxiety to stop and think about the actual issue. Calming down and thinking about the problem would give us a better perspective and new ways of solving ti effectively.....Summarizing the moment in few words, could actually be a help in this regard! :)

so there does seem to be an upside to face booking too rite? .... but then there is a downside too .....

** It's true that  "sharing it with someone makes the moment all the more special". But then there is a bold dark line between the shareable and unshareable things of life too! Remember ... no matter what happens with your life, whether good or ugly...  there are always people out there who could make a joke out of it... may not always prove to be a good picture for you and your folks!..so beware and think before you post!

Take care..... 

Listen...!!

The listening heart should also have a forgetful mind... else other's concerns will become own heartaches!!!

A Dream........

A dream has come true, as our passions are recreated
 a dream that can be made colorful with your support....
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The Desire to Inspire ….

What do I write about? This has been the question on my mind for several days now. And even now when the deadlines are at hands reach, I have no idea what to scribble about!

There have been so many topics in my mind but none has managed to hold my concentration for long. I wonder why I’m out of topic at this very hour when the need for it is high.

Many times in life we are in similar situations when we desire to perform, but we are in lack of inspiration! Inspiration is required not only for a work of art, but in all walks of life, whether it be to do chores at home, or to survive through the heavy traffic everyday, to get to office. Without inspiration life doesn't move on!

As a mother, father, brother, friend, or whatever roles u play in your lives.. how do U add inspiration to your loved one’s life?

Inspiration is sometimes such a heavy word that we tend to look too far for it, when in reality we could have found it not farther than our door steps! A simple smile, a small word, a gesture of care and concern, would change our worst days to the most beautiful ones. Remember the last time you screwed up your presentation and u were feeling at the edge of the world? On completion when u wanted to hurry and hide, your big boss had congratulated you on the best effort made! …. Didn’t that change your worst nightmare to a beautiful dream achieved?

The world we live in is spinning at high speed, we are all in a hurry, to achieve, to compete, to survive.  We say we don’t have time, for fun, for hobbies, for family, for kids, for ourselves…..for all that really matters in life! We spend our lives, chasing the materialistic world, with the aim of framing a better future for our kids, while our kids grow up without knowing their parents or their love! And later we complain about them not treating their parents right! how contradictory is that!

It may not be about expensive gifts , but about simple gestures which would make someone’s day!

So the next time you feel good about someone or something… don’t hesitate... go on ..tell them …. be the reason of their smileJ it doesn’t cost you a thing and still will return to you in blessingsJ … be an inspiration !!!